What a week!!

I had one of those weeks that was just so......good. A couple of performances, met some fantastic people and, oh yeah, ran into the prototype for my husband.  I know, I know.....but it made me not care about all the bad dates I've been on because I'm reassured that there is somebody like this out there.

Oh, we didn't go out or anything.  Actually, I'm pretty sure he's not even into me, but I'm hopeful again.....in this:

Until next time,The Single Chick

I might be a blog-stalker...

This just might be the 2010 equivalent to calling a guy and hanging up when he answers.

Being one of the (very) few single girls left in my circle of friends, my attached girlfriends are constantly trying to set me up with a guy they know "who would be perfect" for me.  It never works.  So far, I've met Sir Lies-About-His-Age, Mr. Jokes-Are-All-I-Know and Stand-Me-Up Guy #1.

The latest "perfect guy" has been brought to my attention by one of my best friends.  I actually met him once, casually.  He was cute and he seemed nice enough, but that was it.  Last week I received and email from her, telling me how amazing he is, how much we have in common, how perfect we'd be together and a link to his blog.  So, I checked it out.....

If he's half a good as his writing is, I'd propose tomorrow. I've read so much of it, I think I've developed a bit of an e-crush. (Ugh, that sounds so much less lame in my head....)

So, now I visit the blog regularly to read his poetry and check out his art -- it's all pretty friggin' fantastic. If I had found his blog organically, I'd happily comment on all the fantastic-ness I'd stumbled across....but I feel like, somehow, my comments could get traced back to me.  Not 'The Single Chick' me, but the real single chick who lives outside of cyberspace.  So I don't comment. I visit and I don't comment and I take in his art.

And feel like an online, alter-ego stalker.

Damn.....maybe this is why I'm single.

Until next time,
The Single Chick

10 things I'd love to hear

Someone shared this video with me and....well, I actually cried.  (Don't judge me.)  Oooh....this is a new blog, maybe I'll make this a weekly thing - sharing something I didn't write to kick the week off....

It's a thought.

In the mean time, enjoy!!





Until next time,
The Single Chick

I Used to Think I Couldn't Be a Poet

I guess it's time for me to share some of the writing that I claim keeps me so busy. I have a show this week, at which I will be performing this piece, so......while you read, I'm going to go practice!!

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I used to think I couldn’t be a poet
Because I hadn’t struggled enough --
Hadn’t earned my stripes.
Because me and my three brothers all had the same parents,
And we lived with them both.
My mother didn’t beat me while cussin’ me to high heaven and my father didn’t sell drugs.
I had never eaten a mayonnaise sandwich,
Played in the street without shoes
or
Lived in one of the recognized, under-developed, soon-to-be-gentrified neighbourhoods in a major metropolitan.
My family was only poor enough to go without cable or a home phone for a spell
Sometimes our water ran cold from the tap, but there was always water
And there was always a tap
As a fixture in the bathroom of a house we had never been evicted from.

I used to think I couldn’t be a poet
Because I didn’t have a political stance behind my words.
I was part of no un-televised revolution – just self-revelation
And a resolution to be a producer of peace.
I had no stories of sit-ins, set-ups or set-backs at the hand of “the Man.”
No conspiracy theories to share
No colours to wear bearing the symbol of my allegiance.
I thought it
Because my verses lacked an essential racial undertone
Intertwined with pride, marginalization, historical references.
Because to strangers, my voice without my face often leaves them wondering about my race.
Because I have not often felt the frustration of overt discrimination
Nor the reported solidarity of racial unity.
Because I went to school with children who looked like me
And who didn’t,
Worked with those that looked like me
And those who didn’t
And it rarely dawned on me to care.

I used to think I couldn’t be a poet
Because I wasn’t an extreme feminist
Because I shave my legs and date men and believe in chivalry.
Because I spell "woman" with the word “man” embedded therin,
Love me some high-heeled shoes and acknowledge the power of flirtation.
I have had my heart broken by a man or two
But never my jaw
And have found a way to forgive the two who had used their maleness and my unattended drink to their benefit...
Because I wasn’t angry enough
To scream “f you” to all the XYs in the room.

I used to think I couldn’t call myself a poet
Because I hadn’t developed my poetry voice.
I hadn’t mastered the rhythmic staccato,
Roller-coastered inflections,
Intonation that leaves
You
Begging for the next word.
Because I hadn’t yet learned how to woo the crowd
And sometimes my poems rhymed.
But not in that cool Black Ice kinda way…
I didn’t feel my subjects were deep enough,
Nor were they commercially sellable.
Because I wasn’t as lyrically creative as home-grown Drake
Wasn’t quite confident enough to pull off sexy
And, hell, I wasn’t even that funny…

All I had were my stories to share

So I stopped trying to be what I thought a poet should be.
Stopped trying to be a poet
And just was…

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Until next time, 

The Single Chick

Vision boards: far sighted, far fetched

I look at it everyday.  It's the first thing I see after I swing my legs over the side of the bed and peel my eyelids back.  It's my vision board.  For anyone who is unfamiliar with the concept of a vision board, think of it as a visual representation of all of your life's dreams.  I have cut out words and pictures from magazines and newspapers, real estate catalogues and travel brochures.  It is a 4-foot pink square of bristol board, covered in the images of all of my (yet unmet) hopes and dreams.

Words like "My amazing, successful, kick-ass, fabulous life!", "persistent excellence," "finding balance," "your dreams are possible," and "falling in love" are glued to images of a bikini-clad body, L'arc de Triomphe in France, the pyramids, a 1 ct. brilliant-cut diamond, a BMW, the floor plan of my dream condo and, of course, a bookshelf full of books....with one book circled and labeled "written by me."

I believe in the law of attraction as much as the next guy, but I'm still trying to figure out how to make that vision into my reality. 6 days/week at the local gym, sweating until I look like a greased pig and what I have to show for it is 5 lbs less, a broken toe and the inability to wear my super sexy stilletoes to the boat cruise I'm going on tomorrow.

Somehow, I think the pyramids are still a way off...

So how helpful are vision boards?  Do they serve to keep us motivated and focussed, working towards the things we claim we want to have? Or are they simply reminders of all of the things we currently lack in our lives?  The optimist in me wants to bet on motivation and the belief that if I can see it, I can achieve it.

So that being said, how exactly do I start working on my ring???

Until next time,
The Single Chick


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Stood up, fed up

I got stood up recently. Twice, in fact. By two different men. Within one month.

I was surprised the first time it happened....hurt, actually, because I kinda liked the guy.  We had been on one fairly fantastic date and then - BAM - out of seemingly nowhere, he doesn't show up.  I chalked it up to some rare, flesh-eating disease that must have rendered him hideous and he was just too embarrassed to face me or to talk about it.  Then, when I got stood up the second time, I checked the news for a segment on the pandemic that was sweeping across the population of single men in Toronto. Symptoms: failure to follow through on commitments, inability to dial or text, and, in rare occasions, completely vanishing altogether.

It was a long shot, but what else could it be?

Not even my male friends could offer a reasonable suggestion as to why this would've happened to me. And twice, no less.  I am considered, among my friends, to be a rather attractive, intelligent, witty and fun, career-oriented, ambitious woman and all-around cool chick.  Not clicking with someone is one thing, but setting a date and then bailing without communication is a whole other kettle of fish.  I'd really like to know if there is a way to avoid the type of guy that would commit such and offense.  The two in my experience seemed completely normal and quite into me.  I never saw it coming.

And I guess I still don't really have any answers to this conundrum.  I don't plan on giving up on dating completely, but how attractive is the disclaimer:

"If you plan on wasting my time after I've found a sitter for the evening, at least give me a heads-up so, I can do something else with the little free time I have.  Thanks."

...?

In the meantime, I'm checking references.  Allowing my friends to do the matchmaker thing that they like to do, but only with people they've known to have at least an 85% follow through rate.

I'm also keeping one eye on the news for signs of my suspected pandemic.

Until next time,
The Single Chick

No expectations, no regrets

First Post. No expectations, no regrets....

How is a 20-something single chick supposed to figure out her life and all it's amazingly beautiful chaos without documenting some of it?  Chronicles of my journeys through dating while being a mom, writing and performing my poetry, existing as a puzzle piece in a very large and overbearing family and working it all out through shopping and social events with my safety net of friends will end up here.  Sometimes you'll get a quick-read article, sometimes a poem, sometimes a thought, always the truth.

Until next time,

The Single Chick